adoption Q&A

As most of you know I'm adopted. Getting married means having babies, and that makes people ask me questions. I love it when people ask about my adoption. I have noticed that a lot of people look at adoption as a negative thing, and I will take any opportunity to show people that it is not. I have been asked about my adoption a lot more lately. So I will answer all those questions. here goes. 

> How old where you when you were adopted?

> Just a few weeks. I was placed in a foster home for a couple weeks till my parents picked me up.

> Have you ever been angry at the thought that someone could just give you away?

> Yes. As much as I hate to admit it I have been. But, I do not look at it as giving me away. She wanted me to have the best life I possibly could and she knew that she could not give me everything that she wanted me to have. It was a very hard decision for her. 

> Is is hard knowing that your real mom is out there and you have never meet her?

> No. I do not look at her as my "real" mom. She is my birth mother, but the woman that raised me and that I am sealed to is my "real" mom. 

> Do you ever want to meet your birth parents?

> This is a hard question, and I am still torn. I have no desire to meet my birth father, but I would love to sit down with my birth mother for a couple hours and learn about her. Just so I can learn about where I came from. 

> Do you have siblings that you have never met?

> I am guessing that I do but I do not know for sure.

> Is being adopted hard on you emotionally?

> At one point it was. When I was in my teen "I need to find myself" years. It was hard on my not knowing where I came from or what my birth parents were like.

> When did they tell you that you were adopted?

> I was told it from a very young age so I knew it growing up. Even if they hadn't told me I would have figured it out eventually. "mom why are you white and I'm black?" that would have been an awkward conversation. It wasn't until my senior year that I found about more information about my birth parents and the details of my adoption. 

> Do you plan on adopting?

> I would love to adopt if I had that opportunity. But I also want to have my own children. So when we decide that we are ready for kids we will make that decision. 

> Are you the only one in your family that is adopted?

> No. Both my brother and my sister are adopted. 

> Do you consider your adoption a very private matter?

> Not at all. I talk about it freely and in my family we often joke about it. I hold my adoption dear to me but it is something I have no problem talking about. 

> Because you are adopted is family life different?

> I guess I wouldn't know any different because this is the only "way" I know. But from what I can tell It is the same as everyone else. We are a family and that's whats important. I do get a few laughs when people say "I can totally tell you are sisters you look so much a like" That's when we just smile and nod our heads. 

If there are any other questions that anyone may have please ask and I would love to answer them for you or you can always click on my adoption tab to your right and get the whole story. 

Over and out.